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TCR Lifeline Newsletter – October 2022



Twin Cities Retrouvaille Lifeline Newsletter


10 Tips for a
Healthy Marriage

by Child Welfare Information Gateway
It takes work to have a healthy marriage just like good nutrition and regular exercise to keep your body healthy. Here are 10 tips to strengthen your marriage:
  1. Spend Time with Each Other
  2. Learn to Negotiate Conflict
  3. Show Respect for Each Other at ALL Times
  4. Learn About Yourself First
  5. Explore Intimacy
  6. Explore Common Interests
  7. Create a Spiritual Connection
  8. Improve Your Communication Skills
  9. Forgive Each Other
  10. Look for the Best in Each Other
Click Here to Read the Full Article


Please prayerfully consider…



October 21-23, 2022
Eagan, MN

Post sessions are over….C.O.R.E. is available monthly… but what else can we do to continue our Retrouvaille journey?
Have you considered a FORMATION WEEKEND as a next step to further heal and renew your marriage?  Here’s your chance!





  • The continuing process of healing that began on our Retrouvaille weekend
  • An opportunity deepen the ways God is healing our marriage.
  • An opportunity for personal and spiritual growth
  • An opportunity to build trust and respect in our marriage
  • A way to incorporate more values of Retrouvaille in our lives
  • A way to grow confidence and build community

Weekend Details: 
When:      October 21-23, 2022
                 Friday check-in – 6:30 p.m. CST
                 Sessions begin –7:00 p.m.
                 Sunday conclusion – 4:00 p.m.

Where:    Best Western Dakota Ridge Hotel – Eagan, MN
Presenting team:    Priest Fr. Francois Pellissier & Mark & Betty Squier 
Cost:   $350** / couple; $300 / priest
            Includes 2 nights hotel, plus Saturday & Sunday meals
** TCR will reimburse couples $150 who attend if they become presenters

Click Here to Register

60 Second Wisdom
with Matthew Kelly
10 Things You Should NEVER
Say to Anyone:
  1. Relax.
  2. Everything will be okay.
  3. I told you so.
  4. This should be easy.
  5. Get over it.
  6. Are you really going to eat that?
  7. You’re insane.
  8. Why are you still single.
  9. You look tired.
  10. Calm down.
Click Here for Full Video


Marriage Prayers

Marriage Prayer 


To Restore One Another

Dear Heavenly Father,

So much of our time is taken up, just keeping up with the demands of everyday life. Responsibilities can be overwhelming some days. So many things demand our attention, our thoughts, and our time. While some of these things are necessary, we need help to slow down the pace and manage our time more effectively.

We ask that You give us the wisdom to prioritize our time so that we have ample time for each other.

Draw us closer together through understanding, compassion, and trust. Teach us to unwind in each other’s presence, and to restore one another with encouraging words. One of the most refreshing things one can have in the hustle and bustle of life are the soothing arms of a lover that welcomes us home.

Help us to find that place of refuge and strength in each other.

In the name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.

Bible Verse to Ponder:

But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace. – James 3:17-18, KJV

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Encouraging Your Husband to be a Hero
by Dr. Juli Slattery, a clinical psychologist and author
Marriage doesn’t come with a guidebook. Men and women are different. The need to understand the differences between you and your husband is vital for a healthy and long-lasting marriage.


Focus on the Family offers a 6-part video series called “Encouraging Your Husband to be a Hero” to address the questions such as: What does your husband’s need for respect look like? What does the Bible really mean when it talks about submission? And what can you do to draw closer to your spouse?

Video #1: When the Feeling of Love Fades
Video #2: Men’s 3 Core Needs
Video #3: Women’s 2 Core Needs
Video #4: Submission in Marriage
Video #5: Obstacles to Intimacy
Video #6: Practical Advice for Disillusioned Couples


Click Here to Order Your Video Series

Like the Quote?
You will love the book:


Walking with Purpose
Seven Priorities that Make Life Work
by Lisa Breninkmeyer

How do moms balance marriage, motherhood, and a career? Learn how to prioritize your hectic life, discover your unique purpose, and develop meaningful relationships with God, your husband, children, and friends.
Click Here to Learn More and Order

A Spiritual Potpourri –
Married Couples Weekend

October 14 (8 PM) – October 16 (1 PM)
King’s House
Christ the King Retreat Center
621 First Avenue South
Buffalo, MN 55313
  • Take time for yourself.
  • Take time to be in the presence of God.
  • Renew and strengthen your relationship with God and your spouse amid quiet and beauty.
  • Christ the King Retreat Center is a ministry of our community.
Click here to Register


Friday Night Greeter Couples Needed
December 2, 2022 – 5:30 PM

Before COVID, we used to have “Greeter Couples” help welcome incoming Friday Night Couples (FNC’s) to the Retrouvaille weekends.  We would like to bring Greeter Couples back.
Can you help?   

Friday Evening – Arrive between 5:30pm – 6:00pm at the Best Western Dakota Ridge Hotel.

Enjoy complementary dinner with Retrouvaille friends, then help escort FNC’s to their hotel rooms.
Goal:  Talk to the new couples and help them relax.  

Click Here for More Information & To Sign-Up


Angel Helpers Needed


How would you like to repeat the Retrouvaille weekend with your spouse?

Tasks include helping serve meals, clean-up after meals, running errands if needed.  Your cost is $0 to attend the weekend.  TCR will cover your hotel
cost + meals.  

Your main duty will be to work on your marriage.


We are looking for 1-2 angel couples per weekend:

            Dec. 2-4, 2022
            Feb. 3-5, 2023
            Mar. 31 – Apr. 2
            Jun. 2-4

Click Here to Learn More and to Volunteer

Volunteers Needed

Please prayerfully consider helping.

Thank you!


Prayer Card Couple
The Prayer Card couple maintains the collection of prayer cards written during Post 10.  
The week before a TCR weekend, the prayer couple gets a list of weekend attendees and does the following:


  • selects a card for each couple attending
  • contacts the card writers by email, text, or phone asking if they will pray for the couple. The card writers are told the couple’s first names
  • write couple’s first names on a post it note and attaches it to their prayer card
  • delivers the prayer cards to hotel sometime between Friday night and Sunday lunch

The time commitment ~ 2-3 hours every 6 weeks.

Mozeo Texting
The Mozeo texting person or couple writes and schedules the texts that are sent to weekend couples. The texts start the Monday after the weekend and continue until the last post session. The texts may include a dialogue question, suggested change, or a reminder about Post. Most of the texts are already written and can be rescheduled. The names and phone numbers of the weekend couples need to be uploaded to the Mozeo program.

The time commitment ~3 hours every 6 weeks.

Click Here to Send E-mail


Missed a POST Session?
Need a refresher?
Join us anytime!


All TCR POST sessions are in person.

St. Peter’s Church
405 Sibley Memorial Hwy
Mendota Heights, MN

For more information:

Dean & Pat    952-454-1247

Jim & Vicki     507-381-7614



Missed a POST Session But Cannot Attend In Person?


On-Line Post Sessions
began Tuesday, August 30, 2022 and continue for 12 weeks.

WHEN: Tuesdays, 7:00-9:00 PM (Central Time)

HOW: Using registration link below

Please enter the first name for both Husband and Wife in the First Name Box when registering.  This will present both names in the Meeting Window of the on-line session.

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the webinar.


On-Line POST Session Registration Link

When in-person, join us for food & fellowship.
Bring a dish to share & your own drinks.
6:30~7:00 p.m. Potluck
7:00-8:00 p.m. CORE Meeting


Our Lady of Peace Catholic Church
5426 12th Ave. S. Minneapolis

Please enter through Door 2 and head straight back to the Whelan Room
When virtual, join us at
6:30-7:30 p.m.
Use the following information to access the virtual meeting:
Dial in:  +1 312 626 6799
Meeting ID: 812 2062 3844
Passcode: 352790


Link to the Virtual TCR CORE Meeting


Central MN CORE In-Person
Sunday, October 16th

Meetings held every 3rd Sunday of the month (except December).

St. Michael’s Church
1036 Co Rd 4
St Cloud 56303

Please contact Kyle or Jennifer for additional information



International CORE Meetings


1st Thursday of Month 7 pm

Retrouvaille International hosts an online CORE the first Thursday of each month, from
7-9 pm Central Time.

October 6, 2022
November 3, 2022
December 1, 2022

Questions call be directed to
Dick and Irene


Click Here for Zoom Link


International CORE Meetings


2nd Saturday of Month 5 pm

Retrouvaille International hosts an online CORE the second Saturday of each month, from
5-7 pm Central Time.

October 8, 2022
November 12, 2022
December 10, 2022

Questions call be directed to Hoefie and Joleen




Men's Group

Fargo Men’s Groups


In-Person: Friday Mornings 6:30am
at Snap Dragon Asian Buffet in Moorhead

Virtual: Wednesday Mornings 6:30am
(see zoom link below)

The Fargo Retrouvaille Community would like to welcome any and all men to join the Friday morning group meetings. 
It is an awesome opportunity for men to support one another as we strive to become the best husbands, father, brothers, and sons we can be. 

Brad and Lisa Gray
Red River Retrouvaille, Community Coordinators
Diocese of Fargo
5201 Bishops Blvd
Fargo, ND 58104
(701) 356-7903 – office
(701) 306-7685 – mobile

Click Here for Zoom Meeting Weds 6:30am



Would you like to become a Mentor Couple?


Two of our most important goals in Retrouvaille are helping hurting couples and developing our TCR community. Here is a chance to do both! 

TCR is starting a Mentor Couple program similar to efforts in other successful communities.  


What is a Mentor Couple?
Mentors are TCR couples who have been through a weekend and the Post sessions. They connect with new Friday night couples to provide a supportive link to TCR and its programs. 


What are the qualifications?
If you have been in Retrouvaille for a year and want to help other couples, you qualify! Being good listeners and working well together as a couple are particularly helpful. 

What will Mentor Couples actually do?
The Friday night couple you are helping will receive your contact information and a short bio. They will be expecting a text from you in the week following their weekend to set up a call. This is a chance for them to stay connected to another couple who has shared their weekend experience. As with all Retrouvaille, this is not therapy, but a listening ear and an open heart.  

How do I find out more?
Contact Eric & Char Anderson at  



Helpful Resources


Are you looking for books or website to help yourself or your marriage?  Click below for resources for Marriage, Marriage Counseling, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Sex & Intimacy, Pornography & Sex Addiction, Workaholism, Substance Abuse, Depression, and Devotionals.

Click here for books and Website Links

Book Drive for FNCs


Do you have books that helped heal your marriage?  Would you be willing to donate them to other couples who need help with their marriage? 

Bring any books you would like to donate to the Best Western Dakota Ridge in Eagan the weekend or to any Post Session.



Patron Saint of Retrouvaille – St. Joseph


O blessed Joseph, faithful guardian of my Redeemer, Jesus Christ, protector of thy chaste spouse, the virgin Mother of God, I choose thee this day to be my special patron and advocate and I firmly resolve to honor thee all the days of my life. Therefore I humbly beseech thee to receive me as thy client, to instruct me in every doubt, to comfort me in every affliction, to obtain for me and for all the knowledge and love of the Heart of Jesus, and finally to defend and protect me at the hour of my death. Amen

‘I know by experience, ‘ says St. Teresa of Avila, ‘that the glorious St. Joseph assists us generally in all necessities. I never asked him for anything which he did not obtain for me. 



Mission & Vision Statements

Mission Statement


Twin Cities Retrouvaille is a Christian peer ministry that, with the help of God, teaches communication skills and offers a support community to couples experiencing pain and disappointment in their marriage relationships. 

Vision Statement

The vision of TCR is to build a healthy, vibrant, and expanding community which provides a nurturing environment that inspires Retrouvaille couples to grow in support for each other, other couples, and to reach out to other communities.





TCR Board Meetings are held the 3rd Tuesday of every month, 7pm-9pm.
Meetings are open for all community members to attend.
If you would like to attend, please contact any of the board members listed below.


TCR Board Members:

Community Coordinators:  Mike & Ann Cerney
Finance Coordinators:  Eric & Char Anderson
Secretary:  Roger & Susie Verduzco    
Registration Coordinators:  Paul & Tina Shasky   
Weekend Coordinators:   Tim & Teresa Sazma
POST Coordinators: Dean & Pat Ziegenbein
Volunteer Coordinators   Jim & Vicki Smith
CORE Coordinators:  Andy & Deirdre Jameson




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