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GOTTMAN SERIES
SOUND RELATIONSHIP HOUSE

We are proud to announce that, due to multiple requests, we are repeating the
Gottman Series "Sound Relationship House" series.

All sessions will be held on the 3rd Saturday of the month, 6:00 pm,
at St. Mary of the Lake Church in Plymouth, MN
(Potluck Dinner)
No RSVP Necessary - Just show up!

Gottman Institute's

"Sound Relationship House"

Sessions do not need to be taken in order! 

Join us anytime as we enrich our marriages with the help of  Gottman Institute's "Sound Relationship House".

All meetings held at St, Mary of the Lake Church, Plymouth, MN
105 Forestview Ln N, Plymouth, MN 55441
Click Here for Directions

Questions? 
Please contact Eric or Char Andersen
612-817-8189
ewander124@gmail.com
612-867-9189
clbanderson9@gmail.com
 
The Sound Relationship House is a foundational theory introduced and developed by Dr. John Gottman. It says that a foundationally strong relationship is like a house. It contains weight-bearing pillars and floors that help couples establish a strong link. This structure, called the Sound Relationship House, has provided numerous couples with the foundations they need to have happy, healthy relationships that last.

Gottman Sound Relationship House assists couples in managing their marriages and developing problem-solving abilities. These abilities allow couples to be more adaptable in their relationships while also assisting them in achieving emotional stability and peaceful life.

The Sound Relationship House is built on seven levels and two pillars. The two pillars that keep the house standing are Trust and Commitment. Dr. John Gottman shares the seven principles linked to each level or floor of the Sound Relationship House in his book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.” These seven floors or levels are:
  • Build Love Maps
  • Share Fondness and Admiration
  • Turn Towards Instead of Away
  • The Positive Perspective
  • Manage Conflict
  • Make Life Dreams Come True
  • Create Shared Meaning
Click Here for More Information on the Sound Relationship House
Click Here to Register
Click Here for Scholarship Assistance or Carpool Information

VOLUNTEERS NEEDED

LIFEST MUSIC FESTIVAL
July 11-14, 2024
Oshkosh, WI

Lifest, one of the largest Christian music festivals in the nation, is a place where you can celebrate the love of God and connect with the family of faith. Featuring over 100 acts on 7 stages, this family-friendly event is sure to have music and activities for all ages.

We are looking for couples to help us "man" the Retrouvaille booth on
Thursday 7/11/24, Friday 7/12/24, and Saturday 7/13/24. 

Any person who volunteers at least 4 hours at the Retrouvaille booth will receive a free day pass to the
Lifest event ($66 value!!)

The booth is inside an air conditioned building.  But, you will need lawn chairs for the festival before or after your volunteer time.  The list of speakers and bands that will be performing are on the link   https://lifest.com/oshkosh/

Please click on the button below to review the available time slots and to sign up. 
Note that our booth MUST be manned the whole event or we will not be allowed back next year.

Any questions, please contact Karl or Kris Gotz kgolz@centurytel.net

Phone 920-229-5886 or 920-369-8836
Click Here to Sign Up to Help

SAVE THE DATE

TCR Annual Summer Picnic

*** Family Event ***

Sunday, July 28th
1:00 - 4:00 pm

Pioneer Park
9165 Fallon Ave NE
Monticello, MN 55362
 

VOLUNTEERS NEEDED

CITY ON THE HILL
MUSIC FESTIVAL

Duluth, MN

Friday August 2nd
Headliner: TobyMac
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Saturday August 3rd
Headliner:  Matthew West
 

We are looking for couples to help us "man" the Retrouvaille booth on
Friday 8/2/24 and Saturday 8/3/24. 

Any person who volunteers at least 4 hours at the Retrouvaille booth will receive a free day pass to the
City on the Hill Music Festival ($60 value!!)

You will need lawn chairs for the festival before or after your volunteer time.
The list of speakers and bands that will be performing are on the link
https://cityonthehillmusicfest.com/

Please click on the button below to review the available time slots and to sign up. 
Note that our booth MUST be manned the whole event or we will not be allowed back next year.

Any questions, please contact Stan or Mary Nordin 
763-333-6442   763-350-7281
manor568@yahoo.com 
stnor667@yahoo.com
Click Here to Sign Up to Help

Six Tips To Have A Happier Marriage

by L'Oreal Thompson Payton

“The notion of a perfect, problem-free, and everlasting happiness in marriage is unrealistic. Every relationship faces challenges, conflicts, and ups and downs,” says Courtney Cope, licensed marriage and family therapist. As part of that ongoing effort, Cope recommends six tried-and-true methods to nurture your emotional connection and help ensure a successful marriage:

1. Set Aside Quality Time
2. Express Love and Appreciation
3. Prioritize Emotional & Physical Intimacy
4. Engage in Shared Interests
5. Manage Conflict Constructively
6. Support Each Other's Growth & Personal Development
Click Here to Read the Full Article
10 Signs You May Have
Marriage Problems

Red Flags and Next Steps for Dealing
With Marriage Trouble
by Sheri Stritof

Every marital relationship is unique and each one faces its own challenges; however, there are common signs of marriage problems:

1. Always Criticizing Each Other
2. Lack of Intimacy
3. You Constantly Have the Same Argument
4. You Are Not Communicating
5. You Don't Enjoy Spending Time Together
6. Keeping Secrets or Lying to Your Spouse
7. There is a Lack of Trust
8. You are Having an Affair
9. You are Emotionally Relying on Another Person
10. There is Abuse

There is hope and there are ways to develop the skills needed to succeed in your marriage.
Click Here to Read the Full Article

Want an Unhindered Marriage?

Relevant Radio 1330AM has a New Radio Segment on helping marriages become stronger.

Doug Hinderer, a licensed marriage and family therapist, is here to help strengthen your marriage.
Click Here to Listen to Podcast

5 Top Marriage Help Books from Relationship Experts

* Hold Me Tight:  Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sue Johnson
* The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Jon Gottman, PhD and Nan Silver
* Wired for Love: How understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin, Psyd.
* I Love You But I Don't Trust You: The complete guide to restoring trust in your relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
* The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
Click Here for More Information
Married Sex
by Gary Thomas

A unique, comprehensive guide to sexual intimacy for Christian couples in every season of marriage.

A great sex life is something you make, not something you find. If you feel confused or frustrated about your sex life—or simply wonder, Is there more to it than this?—Married Sex is exactly what you need to make your marriage stronger, in and out of the bedroom. 
Click Here for More Information
TCR SATURDAY POST MEETINGS
9:30 AM - 2:00 PM   

Guardian Angels Catholic Church 
8260 4th Street North 
Oakdale, MN 55128 
https://www.guardian-angels.org/
Missed a POST Session?
Need a refresher?

Join us any time!
ALL ARE WELCOME!


All TCR POST sessions are available both in-person and online.  We strongly encourage in-person attendance; however if in-person is not possible, please contact Jim & Vicki for the link to join via Zoom.

For more information contact:
Jim & Vicki Smith   
Jim Cell:  507-381-7614
Vicki Cell:  651-890-9377
TCRPost@TCR-mn.org
INTERNATIONAL
VIRTUAL POST SESSIONS
TUESDAYS 7-9PM
 

This series of online Post Sessions begins on Tuesday - May 7, 2024 and continues for 12 weeks.
The time is 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM Central Time 

Please enter the first name for both Husband and Wife in the First Name box when registering.
This will present both names in the Meeting window.

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the webinar.
Click Here to Register

CORE In-Person - Eagan, MN

 

Meetings are held 1st Friday of the month. some of which coincident with the monthly retreat weekends.
 
Best Western Plus Dakota Ridge Hotel
3450 Washington Drive, Eagan, MN
(Meet in the lower level conference room)

For the beginning of the 2024 year, these CORE meetings will be continuing the Gottman Series (see below for more details). 

NEXT Meeting:  April 5th

Join us at any of the following times:
5:30 pm Mass in lower level conference room
6:00 pm Complimentary Dinner in main level breakfast nook
6-7 pm Help Greet the FNCs (Friday Night Couples)

7:00 pm CORE meeting starts
Discussion Topic: "Commitment"
Commitment means believing and acting on the belief that this relationship, with this particular person, is one's life-long journey...for better or for worse (meaning that if it gets worse, we will BOTH work to improve it).

CORE In-Person - Plymouth, MN
Saturday, April 20th

Meetings held every 3rd Saturday of the month
at St. Mary's Church in Plymouth, MN, room 201.

Time:  6:00 ~ 8:00 PM
Location: St. Mary's of the Lake Catholic Church
                105 Forestview Ln N, Plymouth, MN 55441

NO RSVP Necessary - All are Welcome

Central Wisconsin CORE
 

POSTs are held from 1-5 pm virtually and in-person at Holiday Inn Wausau, WI.

April 7th - Posts 11-12

COREs are the first Sunday of the month
April 7th at 7:00 pm.

If anyone wants to join in on our POST or CORE sessions, please contact at us 2039@helpourmarriage.org and we will send them the link.  All are welcome !

Central MN CORE In-Person
April 21, 2024

Meetings held 3rd Sunday of the month (except December) from 1:00-3:00 PM.

St. Michael’s Church
1036 Co Rd 4
St Cloud 56303

Please contact Kyle or Jennifer for additional information
jennifer_paumen@hotmail.com
 
International CORE Meetings

1st Thursday of Month 7- 9 pm

Retrouvaille International hosts an online CORE the first Thursday of each month, from
7-9 pm Central Time.

April 4, 2024

Click below for the current link to register for the Online CORE presentations.  You will be invited to a Zoom meeting.  Register in advance of the meeting.
Click Here for Advanced Registration
After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.
This is a new link and all need to reregister.  The old link is no longer in use.
We look forward to seeing many of your shining faces on this monthly Online CORE.

Angel Helpers Needed

How would you like to repeat the Retrouvaille weekend with your spouse?

Help with details behind the scenes during the weekend. Tasks include helping serve meals, clean-up after meals, running errands if needed. Your cost is $0 to attend the weekend.TCR will cover your hotel cost + meals. Please prayfully consider helping.

Your main duty....work on your marriage.
We are looking for 1-2 angel couples per weekend:
            August 9-11, 2024
          October 4-6, 2024
Click Here to Learn More and to Volunteer
Volunteers Needed

TCR is 100% volunteer run.  
We need more volunteers.
Please prayerfully consider helping.

Thank you!
Weekend Set-Up  and Clean-Up
We need volunteers to help set-up/clean-up for the Retrouvaille weekends.  You can volunteer just for set-up or just clean-up or both!  If interested, clink the link for more information and to sign-up. The time commitment  is 1-2 hours bimonthly
Click Here for More Information and to Sign-Up
Friday Night Greeters
"Greeter Couples" are requested to help on weekends with the Friday Night Couples (FNC's). 
Enjoy complementary dinner with Retrouvaille friends, then help escort FNC's to their hotel rooms.
Goal:  Talk to FNC couples and help them relax.  Check to make sure that both of their key cards are working.  Provide encouragement for the weekend.  Confirm that they have made a good decision to attend.  Tell them when you made your weekend and maybe share how Retrouvaille helped heal your marriage.
Click Here for More Information and to Sign-Up
POST Session Helpers
Interested in POST sessions but would like to do more?  We need helpers at the POST sessions to help prepare the room, set-up tables & chairs, and work with the coordinators to help the session run smoothly.  Help for just one session or several.  Please use the link below to email the coordinators for more information.        
Click Here to Email for More Information or to Sign-Up
"FUN" Event Coordinators
We are looking for a couple to set-up a "FUN" event for more community involvement.  It could be anything from bowling to golf simulator to group pickleball. If you have an idea, we would love to hear it! 
Click Here to Email Ideas or to Sign-Up
Would you like to become a Mentor Couple?

Two of our most important goals in Retrouvaille are helping hurting couples and developing our TCR community. Here is a chance to do both! 

TCR is starting a Mentor Couple program similar to efforts in other successful communities.  
What is a Mentor Couple?
Mentors are TCR couples who have been through a weekend and the Post sessions. They connect with new Friday night couples to provide a supportive link to TCR and its programs. 

What are the qualifications?
If you have been in Retrouvaille for a year and want to help other couples, you qualify! Being good listeners and working well together as a couple are particularly helpful. 

What will Mentor Couples actually do?
The Friday night couple you are helping will receive your contact information and a short bio. They will be expecting a text from you in the week following their weekend to set up a call. This is a chance for them to stay connected to another couple who has shared their weekend experience. As with all Retrouvaille, this is not therapy, but a listening ear and an open heart.  

How do I find out more?
Contact Eric & Char Anderson at TCRFinance@tcr-mn.org.  
 
More Dialogue Questions

No need to look all over for Dialogue Questions. 

Click the link below for dialogue questions that can be sorted by subject.
 
Click Here for Dialogue Questions
Embraced By The Heart of the Father

Are you looking to heal your relationship with God?

KNOWN is a 12-week online program for healing wounds with God The Father.

The program is designed to honestly and deeply wrestle with true feelings and wounds with God.

KNOWN focuses on the heart of the relationship with God.

No one is turned away due to lack of funds.
Click Here for More Information
Click Here for List of Minnesota Marriage Counselors
Defeat Porn. Together.

Covenant Eyes is designed to help you and those you love live free from pornography.

Struggling to quit watching porn?

YOU'RE NOT ALONE

Join over 1.5 million people who've used Covenant Eyes to experience victory over porn.
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Helpful Resources

Are you looking for books or website to help yourself or your marriage?  Click below for resources for Marriage, Marriage Counseling, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Sex & Intimacy, Pornography & Sex Addiction, Workaholism, Substance Abuse, Depression, and Devotionals.
Click here for books and Website Links
Book Drive for FNCs

Do you have books that helped heal your marriage?  Would you be willing to donate them to other couples who need help with their marriage? 

Bring any books you would like to donate to the Best Western Dakota Ridge in Eagan during a Retrouvaille weekend or to any Post Session.
Relevant Radio
Relevant Radio

Bringing Christ to the world through the media

We would like to thank Relevant Radio for their support and sharing Retrouvaille through the media.

Tune in to 1330AM
Click here to support Relevant Radio
Patron Saint of Retrouvaille - St. Joseph

O blessed Joseph, faithful guardian of my Redeemer, Jesus Christ, protector of thy chaste spouse, the virgin Mother of God, I choose thee this day to be my special patron and advocate and I firmly resolve to honor thee all the days of my life. Therefore I humbly beseech thee to receive me as thy client, to instruct me in every doubt, to comfort me in every affliction, to obtain for me and for all the knowledge and love of the Heart of Jesus, and finally to defend and protect me at the hour of my death. Amen

'I know by experience, ' says St. Teresa of Avila, 'that the glorious St. Joseph assists us generally in all necessities. I never asked him for anything which he did not obtain for me. 
Mission & Vision Statements
Mission Statement

Twin Cities Retrouvaille is a Christian peer ministry that, with the help of God, teaches communication skills and offers a support community to couples experiencing pain and disappointment in their marriage relationships. 

Vision Statement

The vision of TCR is to build a healthy, vibrant, and expanding community which provides a nurturing environment that inspires Retrouvaille couples to grow in support for each other, other couples, and to reach out to other communities.

TCR Board Meetings are held the 3rd Tuesday of every month, 7pm-9pm.
Meetings are open for all community members to attend.
If you would like to attend, please contact any of the board members listed below.

TCR Board Members:

Chaplain:  Reverend Matthew Shireman  fathermatt@stgregorynb.org
Community Coordinators:  Mike & Ann Cerney   TCRCoordinator@tcr-mn.org
Finance Coordinators:  Paul & Kathy Markert   TCRFinance@tcr-mn.org
Secretary:  Stan & Mary Nordin   TCRSecretary@tcr-mn.org    
Registration Coordinators:  Dean & Pat Ziegenbein   TCRRegistration@tcr-mn.org   
Weekend Coordinators:   Tim & Teresa Sazma TCRWeekend@TCR-mn.org
POST Coordinators: Jim & Vicki Smith  TCRPost@tcr-mn.org
Volunteer Coordinators   OPEN  TCRVolunteer@tcr-mn.org
CORE Coordinators:  OPEN   TCRCore@tcr-mn.org