Hello Twin Cities Retrouvaille, 
 
Can you help us?  We are looking for volunteers to be FRIDAY NIGHT GREETERS for our upcoming weekend:  December 1st.

Enjoy complementary dinner with Retrouvaille friends, then help escort FNC's (Friday Night Couples) to their hotel rooms.

Goal:  Talk to FNC couples and help them relax.  Check to make sure that both of their key cards are working.  Provide encouragement for the weekend.  Confirm that they have made a good decision to attend.  Tell them when you made your weekend and maybe share how Retrouvaille helped heal your marriage.

After all couples have arrived, you are welcome to participate in a social event with other Retrouvaille couples.  Consider it "Date Night!"

Friday Evening Schedule: (Come when you can)

  • Weekend Set-up starts at 4pm
  • Mass at 5:30pm
  • Dinner 6pm
  • Greet Couples until 7pm
  • CORE Meeting 7pm

Location:  Best Western Hotel, Eagan, MN

Questions?  Contact Tim or Teresa TCRWeekend@TCR-MN.org    763-258-4520
Click Here to Sign-Up & RSVP for dinner
Join us for food, games, prizes, "white elephant" gifts, and a whole lot of laughs!
"Ugly" Christmas Sweaters are encouraged!
Please click below to RSVP by December 8th
Click Here to RSVP for the Christmas Party
TCR Annual Discernment
January 21, 2024 1:00 pm
Location: St. Joseph the Worker Church, Maple Grove, MN

Please join us for TCR Annual Discernment for TCR board positions:
  • Finance Coordinator Couple
  • Weekend Coordinator Couple
  • CORE Coordinator Couple
  • Volunteer Coordinator Couple
Each board position is re-discerned every 2 years.
Retrouvaille is inspired and lead by the Holy Spirit.  We rely on God to provide us volunteers to help us continue to minister to hurting couples. 
Please join us for a luncheon and prayers for our new leadership.
Click Here to RSVP for the Discernment Meeting and Pizza Lunch
FORMATION WEEKEND RETREAT
January 26-28, 2024
Post sessions are over….C.O.R.E. is available monthly… but what else can we do to continue our
Retrouvaille journey?  Have you considered a FORMATION WEEKEND as a next step to further heal and renew your marriage?  Here's your chance!
THE FORMATION RETREAT IS:
  • The continuing process of healing that began on your Retrouvaille weekend
  • An opportunity deepen the ways God is healing your marriage.
  • An opportunity for personal and spiritual growth
  • An opportunity to build trust and respect in your marriage
  • A way to incorporate more values of Retrouvaille in your lives
  • A way to grow confidence and build community
Weekend Details:
          When: January 26-28, 2024
          Friday check-in – 6:30 p.m. CST
          Sessions begin – 7:00 p.m.
          Sunday conclusion – 4:00 p.m.
          Where: Christ the King Retreat Center, Buffalo, MN
          Presenting team: Priest and Bill & Missie Curth
          Cost: $350** / couple; $300 / priest
          Includes 2 nights hotel, plus Saturday & Sunday meals
** TCR will reimburse couples $150 who attend if they decide to become presenters.
Click Here to RSVP

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POST MEETING INFORMATION
9:30 AM - 2:00 PM   

Guardian Angels Catholic Church 
8260 4th Street North 
Oakdale, MN 55128 
https://www.guardian-angels.org/
Missed a POST Session?
Need a refresher?

Join us any time!
ALL ARE WELCOME!


All TCR POST sessions are available both in-person and online.  We strongly encourage in-person attendance; however if in-person is not possible, please contact Jim & Vicki for the link to join via Zoom.

For more information contact:
Jim & Vicki Smith   
Jim Cell:  507-381-7614
Vicki Cell:  651-890-9377
TCRPost@TCR-mn.org

CORE In-Person - Eagan, MN


Meetings held every 1st Friday of the month coincident with the monthly retreat weekends.
 
Best Western Plus Dakota Ridge Hotel
3450 Washington Drive, Eagan, MN
(Meet in the lower level conference room)

For the remainder of the year and beginning of the new year, these CORE meetings will be continuing the Gottman Series (see below for more details). 

Gottman Institute's

"Sound Relationship House"

Sessions do not need to be taken in order! 

Join us anytime as we enrich our marriages with the help of  Gottman Institute's "Sound Relationship House".

All meetings held at Best Western Dakota Ridge in Eagan, MN
 
The Sound Relationship House is a foundational theory introduced and developed by Dr. John Gottman. It says that a foundationally strong relationship is like a house. It contains weight-bearing pillars and floors that help couples establish a strong link. This structure, called the Sound Relationship House, has provided numerous couples with the foundations they need to have happy, healthy relationships that last.

Gottman Sound Relationship House assists couples in managing their marriages and developing problem-solving abilities. These abilities allow couples to be more adaptable in their relationships while also assisting them in achieving emotional stability and peaceful life.

The Sound Relationship House is built on seven levels and two pillars. The two pillars that keep the house standing are Trust and Commitment. Dr. John Gottman shares the seven principles linked to each level or floor of the Sound Relationship House in his book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.” These seven floors or levels are:
  • Build Love Maps
  • Share Fondness and Admiration
  • Turn Towards Instead of Away
  • The Positive Perspective
  • Manage Conflict
  • Make Life Dreams Come True
  • Create Shared Meaning
Click Here for More Information on the Sound Relationship House

CORE In-Person - Plymouth, MN
Christmas Party...No Core December 16th


Meetings held every 3rd Saturday of the month
at St. Mary's church in Plymouth, MN, room 201.

Time:  6:30 ~ 8:00 PM
Location: St. Mary's of the Lake Catholic Church
                105 Forestview Ln N, Plymouth, MN 55441
Meeting dates:
        -  December 16, 2023 - NO CORE, XMAS Party instead)
            January 20, 2024 (Potluck)
            February 17, 2024 (Potluck)
            March 16, 2024 (Potluck)

NO RSVP Necessary - All are Welcome

Central Wisconsin CORE
 

December 3rd – Virtual  7 pm via Zoom
January 7th –     Virtual 7 pm via Zoom
February 16th – In Person. Everyone is invited to be a part of our Blue Crew, starting at 5:30 pm. Welcome and help our next group of hurting couples with their luggage and getting them to their rooms. We will have a CORE meeting to follow at 7:15. Everyone is welcome to attend the CORE meeting even if you can’t make it to Blue Crew. 

For additional information:  2039@helpourmarriage.com
Volunteers Needed

TCR is 100% volunteer run.  
We need more volunteers.
Please prayerfully consider helping.

Thank you!
Weekend Set-Up  and Clean-Up
We need volunteers to help set-up/clean-up for the Retrouvaille weekends.  You can volunteer just for set-up or just clean-up or both!  If interested, clink the link for more information and to sign-up. The time commitment  is 1-2 hours bimonthly
Click Here for More Information and to Sign-Up
Friday Night Greeters
"Greeter Couples" are requested to help on weekends with the Friday Night Couples (FNC's). 
Enjoy complementary dinner with Retrouvaille friends, then help escort FNC's to their hotel rooms.
Goal:  Talk to FNC couples and help them relax.  Check to make sure that both of their key cards are working.  Provide encouragement for the weekend.  Confirm that they have made a good decision to attend.  Tell them when you made your weekend and maybe share how Retrouvaille helped heal your marriage.
Click Here for More Information and to Sign-Up
POST Session Helpers
Interested in POST sessions but would like to do more?  We need helpers at the POST sessions to help prepare the room, set-up tables & chairs, and work with the coordinators to help the session run smoothly.  Help for just one session or several.  Please use the link below to email the coordinators for more information.        
Click Here to Email for More Information or to Sign-Up
"FUN" Event Coordinators
We are looking for a couple to set-up a "FUN" event for more community involvement.  It could be anything from bowling to golf simulator to group pickleball. If you have an idea, we would love to hear it! 
Click Here to Email Ideas or to Sign-Up

Angel Helpers Needed

How would you like to repeat the Retrouvaille weekend with your spouse?

Help with details behind the scenes during the weekend. Tasks include helping serve meals, clean-up after meals, running errands if needed. Your cost is $0 to attend the weekend.TCR will cover your hotel cost + meals. Please prayfully consider helping.

Your main duty....work on your marriage.
We are looking for 1-2 angel couples per weekend:
            February 2-4, 2024
            April 5-7, 2024
            May 31-June 2, 2024
            August 9-11, 2024
Click Here to Learn More and to Volunteer
International Virtual POST Sessions
Sundays at 4:30 pm (Central Time)

Vancouver BC Community is hosting one-per-week virtual Post Sessions each Sunday at
4:30 PM (Central Time).  Please feel free to join and share widely. 

Questions - please send to Tim and Carol Ellan at vancouverbc@retrouvaille.org

Central MN CORE In-Person
December 17, 2023

Meetings held every 3rd Sunday of the month (except December) from 1:00-3:00 PM.

St. Michael’s Church
1036 Co Rd 4
St Cloud 56303

Please contact Kyle or Jennifer for additional information
jennifer_paumen@hotmail.com
 
International CORE Meetings

1st Thursday of Month 7- 9 pm

Retrouvaille International hosts an online CORE the first Thursday of each month, from
7-9 pm Central Time.

December 7, 2023

Click below for the current link to register for the Online CORE presentations from now until December 23, 2023.  You will be invited to a Zoom meeting.  Register in advance of the meeting.
Click Here for Advanced Registration
After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.
This is a new link and all need to reregister.  The old link is no longer in use.
We look forward to seeing many of your shining faces on this monthly Online CORE.
Men's Group
Fargo Men's Groups

In-Person: Friday Mornings 6:30am
at Snap Dragon Asian Buffet in Moorhead

Virtual: Wednesday Mornings 6:30am
(see zoom link below)

The Fargo Retrouvaille Community would like to welcome any and all men to join the Friday morning group meetings. 
It is an awesome opportunity for men to support one another as we strive to become the best husbands, father, brothers, and sons we can be. 

Brad and Lisa Gray
Red River Retrouvaille
Diocese of Fargo
5201 Bishops Blvd
Fargo, ND 58104
(701) 356-7903 – office
(701) 306-7685 - mobile
brad.gray@fargodiocese.org
Click Here for Zoom Meeting Weds 6:30am
Would you like to become a Mentor Couple?

Two of our most important goals in Retrouvaille are helping hurting couples and developing our TCR community. Here is a chance to do both! 

TCR is starting a Mentor Couple program similar to efforts in other successful communities.  
What is a Mentor Couple?
Mentors are TCR couples who have been through a weekend and the Post sessions. They connect with new Friday night couples to provide a supportive link to TCR and its programs. 

What are the qualifications?
If you have been in Retrouvaille for a year and want to help other couples, you qualify! Being good listeners and working well together as a couple are particularly helpful. 

What will Mentor Couples actually do?
The Friday night couple you are helping will receive your contact information and a short bio. They will be expecting a text from you in the week following their weekend to set up a call. This is a chance for them to stay connected to another couple who has shared their weekend experience. As with all Retrouvaille, this is not therapy, but a listening ear and an open heart.  

How do I find out more?
Contact Eric & Char Anderson at TCRFinance@tcr-mn.org.  
 
More Dialogue Questions

No need to look all over for Dialogue Questions. 

Click the link below for dialogue questions that can be sorted by subject.
 
Click Here for Dialogue Questions
Click Here for List of Minnesota Marriage Counselors
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Helpful Resources

Are you looking for books or website to help yourself or your marriage?  Click below for resources for Marriage, Marriage Counseling, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Sex & Intimacy, Pornography & Sex Addiction, Workaholism, Substance Abuse, Depression, and Devotionals.
Click here for books and Website Links
Book Drive for FNCs

Do you have books that helped heal your marriage?  Would you be willing to donate them to other couples who need help with their marriage? 

Bring any books you would like to donate to the Best Western Dakota Ridge in Eagan during a Retrouvaille weekend or to any Post Session.
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Bringing Christ to the world through the media

We would like to thank Relevant Radio for their support and sharing Retrouvaille through the media.

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Patron Saint of Retrouvaille - St. Joseph

O blessed Joseph, faithful guardian of my Redeemer, Jesus Christ, protector of thy chaste spouse, the virgin Mother of God, I choose thee this day to be my special patron and advocate and I firmly resolve to honor thee all the days of my life. Therefore I humbly beseech thee to receive me as thy client, to instruct me in every doubt, to comfort me in every affliction, to obtain for me and for all the knowledge and love of the Heart of Jesus, and finally to defend and protect me at the hour of my death. Amen

'I know by experience, ' says St. Teresa of Avila, 'that the glorious St. Joseph assists us generally in all necessities. I never asked him for anything which he did not obtain for me. 
Mission & Vision Statements
Mission Statement

Twin Cities Retrouvaille is a Christian peer ministry that, with the help of God, teaches communication skills and offers a support community to couples experiencing pain and disappointment in their marriage relationships. 

Vision Statement

The vision of TCR is to build a healthy, vibrant, and expanding community which provides a nurturing environment that inspires Retrouvaille couples to grow in support for each other, other couples, and to reach out to other communities.

TCR Board Meetings are held the 3rd Tuesday of every month, 7pm-9pm.
Meetings are open for all community members to attend.
If you would like to attend, please contact any of the board members listed below.

TCR Board Members:

Community Coordinators:  Mike & Ann Cerney   TCRCoordinator@tcr-mn.org
Finance Coordinators:  Eric & Char Anderson   TCRFinance@tcr-mn.org
Secretary:  Stan & Mary Nordin   TCRSecretary@tcr-mn.org    
Registration Coordinators:  Dean & Pat Ziegenbein   TCRRegistration@tcr-mn.org   
Weekend Coordinators:   Tim & Teresa Sazma TCRWeekend@TCR-mn.org
POST Coordinators: Jim & Vicki Smith  TCRPost@tcr-mn.org
Volunteer Coordinators   OPEN  TCRVolunteer@tcr-mn.org
CORE Coordinators:  OPEN   TCRCore@tcr-mn.org