Hello Twin Cities Retrouvaille, 

Thank you to those who were able to attend our annual picnic.  It was a great time at a beautiful park!

We have some exciting changes to announce:

NEW POST LOCATION
Starting in August, Post Sessions will be moving to Guardian Angels in Oakdale, MN.  See details below.

ANOTHER CORE LOCATION - ST. MARY'S IN PLYMOUTH
Beginning on Saturday, September 16 at 6:00 PM, we will having CORE meetings the 3rd Sunday of each month at St. Mary's in Plymouth, Room 201.  CORE will continue to meet 1st Friday of the month in Eagan.  More details to follow.
 
SEARCH FOR NEW TCR CHAPLAIN
We have been actively working with Bishop Hebda and the Archdiocese Office of Marriage and Family to find a chaplain to join the TCR Board.  If you know of a potential priest who would be good for this position, please let us know.  

FRIDAY NIGHT GREETERS NEEDED
If you can help greet Friday Night Couples on August 4th, we would appreciate your help.  Complimentary dinner will be provided.
CORE Meeting to follow at 7:15pm
 

TCR CORE In-Person

Best Western Plus Dakota Ridge Hotel
3450 Washington Drive, Eagan, MN

Meet in the lower level conference room.

Friday, August 4, 2023

Mass 5:30 pm – 6 pm
Friday Night Greeters 6 pm – 7:15 pm
CORE Meeting 7:15 pm – 8:45 pm
Option go out for dessert after meeting
 

Gottman Institute's

"Sound Relationship House"

Sessions do not need to be taken in order! 

Join us anytime as we enrich our marriages with the help of  Gottman Institute's "Sound Relationship House".

All meetings held at Best Western Dakota Ridge in Eagan, MN

Friday, August 4, 2023, 7:15pm
Dinner provided at 6pm

Friday, September 1, 2023, 6:30pm
Potluck
The Sound Relationship House is a foundational theory introduced and developed by Dr. John Gottman. It says that a foundationally strong relationship is like a house. It contains weight-bearing pillars and floors that help couples establish a strong link. This structure, called the Sound Relationship House, has provided numerous couples with the foundations they need to have happy, healthy relationships that last.

Gottman Sound Relationship House assists couples in managing their marriages and developing problem-solving abilities. These abilities allow couples to be more adaptable in their relationships while also assisting them in achieving emotional stability and peaceful life.

The Sound Relationship House is built on seven levels and two pillars. The two pillars that keep the house standing are Trust and Commitment. Dr. John Gottman shares the seven principles linked to each level or floor of the Sound Relationship House in his book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.” These seven floors or levels are:
  • Build Love Maps
  • Share Fondness and Admiration
  • Turn Towards Instead of Away
  • The Positive Perspective
  • Manage Conflict
  • Make Life Dreams Come True
  • Create Shared Meaning
Click Here for More Information on the Sound Relationship House
YES!! 
We want another CORE location (or 2)!!

Thank you to those of you who completed the survey about CORE.  We are pleased to announce that starting September 16th we will be starting a new CORE in Plymouth.  Meetings will be held the 3rd Saturday of the month from 6pm - 8:30 pm.  Stay tuned for more information to come!

Location: 
St. Mary's of the Lake Church105 Forestview Ln N, Plymouth, MN 55441

We also appreciate the numerous requests for an additional CORE location on the east side of the Twin Cities.  We are reaching parishes in Oakdale and Woodbury.  Stay tuned for more information to come!

Writing to Heal Opportunity

The “Writing to Heal” weekend is an opportunity for couples to focus on a specific area in their relationship in which they would both like to experience more growth and healing.  

When:  Saturday October 15 - Sunday October 16, 2023
Mount Olivet Conference & Retreat Center
Farmington, MN
https://mtolivetretreat.org/


Space is limited - so don't delay to register
Click Here for More Information and to Sign-Up
Volunteers Needed

TCR is 100% volunteer run.  
We need more volunteers.
Please prayerfully consider helping.


Thank you!
Mozeo Texting to Post Couples
Some of you may have been part of recent groups that received text messages while attending Post Sessions with reminders to dialogue daily.  We are look for a volunteer to take over this position. 
Time commitment is 2 hours bimonthly
Click Here for More Information for Mozeo Texting
Weekend Set-Up  and Clean-Up
We need volunteers to help set-up/clean-up for the Retrouvaille weekends.  You can volunteer just for set-up or just clean-up or both!  If interested, clink the link for more information and to sign-up. The time commitment  is 1-2 hours bimonthly
Click Here for More Information and to Sign-Up
Friday Night Greeters
"Greeter Couples" are requested to help on weekends with the Friday Night Couples (FNC's). 
Enjoy complementary dinner with Retrouvaille friends, then help escort FNC's to their hotel rooms.
Goal:  Talk to FNC couples and help them relax.  Check to make sure that both of their key cards are working.  Provide encouragement for the weekend.  Confirm that they have made a good decision to attend.  Tell them when you made your weekend and maybe share how Retrouvaille helped heal your marriage.
Click Here for More Information and to Sign-Up
POST Session Helpers
Interested in POST sessions but would like to do more?  We need helpers at the POST sessions to help prepare the room, set-up tables & chairs, and work with the coordinators to help the session run smoothly.  Help for just one session or several.  Please use the link below to email the coordinators for more information.        
Click Here to Email for More Information or to Sign-Up
"FUN" Event Coordinators
We are looking for a couple to set-up a "FUN" event for more community involvement.  It could be anything from bowling to golf simulator to group pickleball. If you have an idea, we would love to hear it! 
Click Here to Email Ideas or to Sign-Up
More Dialogue Questions

No need to look all over for Dialogue Questions. 

Click the link below for dialogue questions that can be sorted by subject.
 
Click Here for Dialogue Questions

Angel Helpers Needed

How would you like to repeat the Retrouvaille weekend with your spouse?

Help with details behind the scenes during the weekend. Tasks include helping serve meals, clean-up after meals, running errands if needed.  Your cost is $0 to attend the weekend.  TCR will cover your hotel cost + meals.  
Your main duty: work on your marriage.

We are looking for 1-2 angel couples per weekend:
            October 6-8, 2023
            December 1-3, 2023
            February 2-4, 2024


 
Click Here to Learn More and to Volunteer
NEW POST LOCATION

Starting August 12th, POST sessions will be held at Guardian Angels Church in Oakdale, MN.  https://www.guardian-angels.org/
 
Missed a POST Session?
Need a refresher?


Join us any time!
ALL ARE WELCOME!



All TCR POST sessions are available both in person and online.

Please email Jim & Vicki for link to join post online.

For more information contact:
Jim & Vicki Smith   
Jim Cell:  507-381-7614
Vicki Cell:  651-890-9377

TCRPost@TCR-mn.org

 

Saturday, August 12, 2023 9:30-2:00 with Noon Potluck
Post 1 - Building Blocks of Marriage, 5 D's Post 2 - Communication, Listening, and Dialogue Saturday, August 19, 2023  9:30-2:00 with Noon Potluck Post 3 - Family of Origin, Personality Types Post 4 - Needs, Expectations Values, Ideals Saturday, August 26, 2023  9:30-2:00 with Noon Potluck Post 5 – Decisions:  Commitment and Love  Post 6 – Decisions:  Forgiveness and Trust 

September 2, 2023 - No Meeting - Labor Day Weekend

Saturday, September 9, 2023  9:30-2:00 with Noon Potluck
Post 9 - Intimacy
Post 10 - Sexual Relationship 


September 16, 2023 - No Meeting 

Saturday, September 23, 2023  9:30-2:00 with Noon Potluck
Post 7 – Conflict Part 1 
Post 8 – Conflict Part 2 

Saturday, September 30, 2023  9:30-2:00 with Noon Potluck
Post 11 - Marriage as a Sacrament 
Post 12 - Looking Beyond Us 

 

International Online POST Sessions
Tuesday Nights 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm (Central Time)

Please enter the first name for both Husband and Wife in the First Name box when registering. This will present both names in the Meeting window.
 

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the webinar.

Click Here to Register for the On-Line Post Sessions

Central MN CORE In-Person
August 20, 2023

Meetings held every 3rd Sunday of the month (except December).

St. Michael’s Church
1036 Co Rd 4
St Cloud 56303

Please contact Kyle or Jennifer for additional information
jennifer_paumen@hotmail.com
 
International CORE Meetings

1st Thursday of Month 7 pm

Retrouvaille International hosts an online CORE the first Thursday of each month, from
7-9 pm Central Time.

August 3, 2023

Questions call be directed to
Dick and Irene
financeteam@helpourmarriage.org
Click Here for Advanced Registration
After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.
This is a new link and all need to reregister.  The old link is no longer in use.
We look forward to seeing many of your shining faces on this monthly Online CORE.
Save the date

Saturday, December 16th

6 pm - 9 pm

 

Heritage Hall
St. Peter's Church
Mendota Heights, MN


 

Men's Group
Fargo Men's Groups

In-Person: Friday Mornings 6:30am
at Snap Dragon Asian Buffet in Moorhead

Virtual: Wednesday Mornings 6:30am
(see zoom link below)

The Fargo Retrouvaille Community would like to welcome any and all men to join the Friday morning group meetings. 
It is an awesome opportunity for men to support one another as we strive to become the best husbands, father, brothers, and sons we can be. 

Brad and Lisa Gray
Red River Retrouvaille
Diocese of Fargo
5201 Bishops Blvd
Fargo, ND 58104
(701) 356-7903 – office
(701) 306-7685 - mobile
brad.gray@fargodiocese.org
Click Here for Zoom Meeting Weds 6:30am
REBUILD YOUR MARRIAGE
Simple but Effective Marriage Advice
by Dr. Allen Hunt

Please take a few minutes to watch this short video on how to love your spouse really well.
 
Click Here to Watch Short Video
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Would you like to become a Mentor Couple?

Two of our most important goals in Retrouvaille are helping hurting couples and developing our TCR community. Here is a chance to do both! 

TCR is starting a Mentor Couple program similar to efforts in other successful communities.  
What is a Mentor Couple?
Mentors are TCR couples who have been through a weekend and the Post sessions. They connect with new Friday night couples to provide a supportive link to TCR and its programs. 

What are the qualifications?
If you have been in Retrouvaille for a year and want to help other couples, you qualify! Being good listeners and working well together as a couple are particularly helpful. 

What will Mentor Couples actually do?
The Friday night couple you are helping will receive your contact information and a short bio. They will be expecting a text from you in the week following their weekend to set up a call. This is a chance for them to stay connected to another couple who has shared their weekend experience. As with all Retrouvaille, this is not therapy, but a listening ear and an open heart.  

How do I find out more?
Contact Eric & Char Anderson at TCRFinance@tcr-mn.org.
 
 
Helpful Resources

Are you looking for books or website to help yourself or your marriage?  Click below for resources for Marriage, Marriage Counseling, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Sex & Intimacy, Pornography & Sex Addiction, Workaholism, Substance Abuse, Depression, and Devotionals.

Click here for books and Website Links
Click here for MN Relationship & Marriage Counselors
Book Drive for FNCs

Do you have books that helped heal your marriage?  Would you be willing to donate them to other couples who need help with their marriage? 

Bring any books you would like to donate to the Best Western Dakota Ridge in Eagan during a Retrouvaille weekend or to any Post Session.
Relevant Radio
Relevant Radio

Bringing Christ to the world through the media

We would like to thank Relevant Radio for their support and sharing Retrouvaille through the media.

Tune in to 1330AM
Click here to support Relevant Radio
Patron Saint of Retrouvaille - St. Joseph

O blessed Joseph, faithful guardian of my Redeemer, Jesus Christ, protector of thy chaste spouse, the virgin Mother of God, I choose thee this day to be my special patron and advocate and I firmly resolve to honor thee all the days of my life. Therefore I humbly beseech thee to receive me as thy client, to instruct me in every doubt, to comfort me in every affliction, to obtain for me and for all the knowledge and love of the Heart of Jesus, and finally to defend and protect me at the hour of my death. Amen

'I know by experience, ' says St. Teresa of Avila, 'that the glorious St. Joseph assists us generally in all necessities. I never asked him for anything which he did not obtain for me. 

Mission & Vision Statements
Mission Statement

Twin Cities Retrouvaille is a Christian peer ministry that, with the help of God, teaches communication skills and offers a support community to couples experiencing pain and disappointment in their marriage relationships. 

Vision Statement

The vision of TCR is to build a healthy, vibrant, and expanding community which provides a nurturing environment that inspires Retrouvaille couples to grow in support for each other, other couples, and to reach out to other communities.


TCR Board Meetings are held the 3rd Tuesday of every month, 7pm-9pm.
Meetings are open for all community members to attend.
If you would like to attend, please contact any of the board members listed below.


TCR Board Members:

Community Coordinators:  Mike & Ann Cerney   TCRCoordinator@tcr-mn.org
Finance Coordinators:  Eric & Char Anderson   TCRFinance@tcr-mn.org
Secretary:  Stan & Mary Nordin   TCRSecretary@tcr-mn.org    
Registration Coordinators:  Dean & Pat Ziegenbein   TCRRegistration@tcr-mn.org   
Weekend Coordinators:   Tim & Teresa Sazma TCRWeekend@TCR-mn.org
POST Coordinators: Jim & Vicki Smith  TCRPost@tcr-mn.org
Volunteer Coordinators   OPEN  TCRVolunteer@tcr-mn.org
CORE Coordinators:  OPEN   TCRCore@tcr-mn.org