Happy New Year!

2022 was a good year for TCR.  COVID was a challenge, but we are proud to say that we have continued to be financially blessed by many generous donations.  All Glory to God for all the couples who were kind with many big-hearted donations
 
We are happy to report that Couple Attendance has been good, but could be better. We had 85 couples attend TCR in 2022, which is up from 78 couples in 2021, and only 39 couples in 2020 due to COVID.  Pre-Covid TCR was averaging approximately 125 couples per year.

TCR has been increasing our marketing and publicity efforts to reach as many couples as possible.  We are looking for a person to handle TCR's marketing and promotions.  If you are interested, please contact Mike or Ann Cerney
TCRCoordinators@TCR-MN.org.

TCR will be sponsoring another Writing-to-Heal weekend January 20-22, 2023 at the Christ the King Retreat Center in Buffalo, MN.  More information is in article below.

We look forward to 2023 and with God's help, save as many marriages as possible!
Please continue to keep the ministry of Retrouvaille in your prayers!
Weekend Registration
Weekend Registration
Couple Needed
The registration couple assists with helping couples register for the weekend program.  This includes responding to email requests, help couples complete registration, answer questions, coordinating payment options, confirming couple rooms with the hotel, updating the Retrouvaille database, create name tags for couples, and check-in couples as they arrive at the hotel on Friday night of the weekend.
The Weekend Registration Coordinator Couple is a formal member of the TCR Board.  TCR Board Meetings are held the 3rd Tuesday of the month, 7pm-9pm, in person or virtually.
TCR Weekends are typically the 1st Weekend of the months of February, April, June, August, October, and December.
Click Here for More Information
TCR Board Secretary 
Couple Needed
The secretary couple is responsible to record the minutes of TCR board meetings and distributes them to the TCR board members.  The Secretary couple is also responsible for updating the database as needed.  The Secretary Couple is a formal member of the TCR Board.  TCR Board Meetings are held the 3rd Tuesday of the month, 7pm-9pm, in person or virtually.
Click Here for More Information
All are Welcome
TCR Annual Discernment

January 27, 2023
Mass 6:30pm
Dinner 7pm
Discernment 7:30pm

Location:  St. John Neuman Church, Eagan, MN

Please join us for TCR Annual Discernment for TCR board positions:

  • Community Coordinators
  • Secretary Couple
  • Weekend Registration Coordinators
  • Post Coordinators 
  • CORE Coordinators
Each board position is re-discerned every 2 years. Retrouvaille is inspired and lead by the Holy Spirit.  We rely on God to provide us volunteers to help us continue to minister to hurting couples. Please join us for dinner and prayers for our new leadership.
Click Here to RSVP
Digging Deeper
Writing-to-Heal Weekend

January 20-22, 2023
Christ the King Retreat Center
Buffalo, MN

 
The “Digging Deeper” weekend is an opportunity for couples to 'go-deeper' on Retrouvaille concepts learned during their original weekend and at Post sessions.  It allows couples time to focus on a specific area in their relationship in which they would both like to experience more growth and healing.  The theme of this weekend is "Forgiveness"
Please join us as we deepen the strength of our marriage.
Presenters will be Mike & Ann Cerney

 
Click Here to Learn More and to Register
TCR "FUN" Event -
Feed My Starving Children

 
Saturday February 11, 2023 at 7:00 PM - 8:45 PM
990 Lone Oak Road, Suite 136, Eagan, MN 55121
 
Let's enjoy each other in fellowship while we pack food as a group for those in need. 
We will go out for supper or dessert afterwards.
Click Here to Sign Up
More Dialogue Questions

No need to look all over for Dialogue Questions. 

Click the link below for a very long list of more dialogue questions that can be sorted by subject.
 
Click Here for Dialogue Questions
Starts Jan. 12th !
 
Do you want to better understand yourself, your husband and your children?
Do you desire strong friendships with other moms just like you?

If you answered yes, then click on the link below and select:
  1. The Temperament Study
  2. Mpls/St. Paul Archdiocese
  3. St. Jude of the Lake
  4. The timeframe you are able to meet
Childcare available upon request.  Book and workbook included in the fee - no need to order anything!

Contact Kari at: enroll@stjudeofthelake.org
for any questions or for more information.
Click Here to Complete Registration

Angel Helpers Needed

How would you like to repeat the Retrouvaille weekend with your spouse?

Tasks include helping serve meals, clean-up after meals, running errands if needed.  Your cost is $0 to attend the weekend.  TCR will cover your hotel cost + meals.  
Your main duty - work on your marriage.

We are looking for 1-2 angel couples per weekend:
            February 3-5, 2023
            March 31 - April 2, 2023
            June 2-4, 2023

            August 4-6, 2023
Click Here to Learn More and to Volunteer
Volunteers Needed

Please prayerfully consider helping.

Thank you!
Weekend Set-Up  and Clean-Up
We need volunteers to help set-up/clean-up for the Retrouvaille Couple's weekend of
February 3-5, 2023.  You can volunteer just for set-up or just clean-up or both!  If interested, clink the link for more information and to sign-up. 
The time commitment ~2 -3 hours each day.
Click Here for More Information and to Sign-Up
POST Session Helper
Interested in POST sessions but would like to do more?  We need helpers at the POST sessions to help prepare the room, set-up tables & chairs, and work with the coordinators to help the session run smoothly.  Help for just one session or several.  Please use the link below to email the coordinators for more information.                                                             The time commitment ~4 hours each month
Click Here to Email for More Information or to Sign-Up
"FUN" Event Coordinators
We are looking for a couple to set-up a "FUN" event for more community involvement.  It could be anything from bowling to golf simulator to group pickleball. If you have an idea, we would love to hear it! 
Click Here to Email Ideas or to Sign-Up
Missed a POST Session?
Need a refresher?
Join us anytime!


All TCR POST sessions are in person.

St. Peter's Church
405 Sibley Memorial Hwy
Mendota Heights, MN

For more information:

Dean & Pat    952-454-1247
TCRPost@TCR-mn.org

Jim & Vicki     507-381-7614
TCRVolunteer@TCR-mn.org

 
International Online POST Sessions
Tuesday Nights 7:00 pm - 9:00 pm (Central Time)

Session 1      Jan 31     Sight Survey
Session 2      Feb 7       Dialogue/Listening
Session 3      Feb 14     Family of Origin
Session 4      Feb 21     Needs, Expectations, Wants
Session 5      Feb 28     Commitment/Love
Session 6      Mar 7       Forgiveness/Trust
Session 7      Mar 14     Conflict Management (Part 1)
Session 8      Mar 21     Conflict Management (Part 2)
Session 9      Mar 28     Intimacy
Session 10    Apr 4        Our Sexual Relationship
Session 11    Apr 11       Marriage as Vocation
Session 12    Apr 18      Review/Sharing Gift
 

Please enter the first name for both Husband and Wife in the First Name box when registering. This will present both names in the Meeting window.

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the webinar.

Click Here to Register for the On-Line Post Sessions

Central MN CORE In-Person
January 15, 2023

Meetings held every 3rd Sunday of the month (except December).

St. Michael’s Church
1036 Co Rd 4
St Cloud 56303

Please contact Kyle or Jennifer for additional information
jennifer_paumen@hotmail.com
 
International CORE Meetings

1st Thursday of Month 7 pm

Retrouvaille International hosts an online CORE the first Thursday of each month, from
7-9 pm Central Time.

January 5, 2023

Questions call be directed to
Dick and Irene
financeteam@helpourmarriage.org
Click Here for Zoom Link
International CORE Meetings

2nd Saturday of Month 5 pm

Retrouvaille International hosts an online CORE the second Saturday of each month, from
5-7 pm Central Time.

January 14, 2023

Questions call be directed to Hoefie and Joleen  cdhaupt@gmail.com
Men's Group
Fargo Men's Groups

In-Person: Friday Mornings 6:30am
at Snap Dragon Asian Buffet in Moorhead

Virtual: Wednesday Mornings 6:30am
(see zoom link below)

The Fargo Retrouvaille Community would like to welcome any and all men to join the Friday morning group meetings. 
It is an awesome opportunity for men to support one another as we strive to become the best husbands, father, brothers, and sons we can be. 

Brad and Lisa Gray
Red River Retrouvaille, Community Coordinators
Diocese of Fargo
5201 Bishops Blvd
Fargo, ND 58104
(701) 356-7903 – office
(701) 306-7685 - mobile
brad.gray@fargodiocese.org
Click Here for Zoom Meeting Weds 6:30am
Defeat Porn. Together.

Covenant Eyes is designed to help you and those you love live free from pornography.

Struggling to quit watching porn?

YOU'RE NOT ALONE


Join over 1.5 million people who've used Covenant Eyes to experience victory over porn.
Click Here for more info
Would you like to become a Mentor Couple?

Two of our most important goals in Retrouvaille are helping hurting couples and developing our TCR community. Here is a chance to do both! 

TCR is starting a Mentor Couple program similar to efforts in other successful communities.  
What is a Mentor Couple?
Mentors are TCR couples who have been through a weekend and the Post sessions. They connect with new Friday night couples to provide a supportive link to TCR and its programs. 

What are the qualifications?
If you have been in Retrouvaille for a year and want to help other couples, you qualify! Being good listeners and working well together as a couple are particularly helpful. 

What will Mentor Couples actually do?
The Friday night couple you are helping will receive your contact information and a short bio. They will be expecting a text from you in the week following their weekend to set up a call. This is a chance for them to stay connected to another couple who has shared their weekend experience. As with all Retrouvaille, this is not therapy, but a listening ear and an open heart.  

How do I find out more?
Contact Eric & Char Anderson at TCRFinance@tcr-mn.org.
 
 
Helpful Resources

Are you looking for books or website to help yourself or your marriage?  Click below for resources for Marriage, Marriage Counseling, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Sex & Intimacy, Pornography & Sex Addiction, Workaholism, Substance Abuse, Depression, and Devotionals.

Click here for books and Website Links
Marriage Prayers
Marriage Prayer 

Building Trust
 

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You today asking for Your guidance and strength in our marriage. We know that trust is essential for a strong and healthy relationship, and so we pray for Your help in building and maintaining this area of our lives.

We pray for the courage and wisdom to communicate openly and honestly with one another, even when it’s hard. Help us to be vulnerable with each other, and to support and encourage one another in all that we do.

We pray that You would give us the strength to forgive one another when we make mistakes, and to work together to resolve any issues that may arise. Lord, we pray that You would help us to be patient with each other, and to always choose love and understanding over anger or resentment.

Thank You for the gift of our marriage, and for the opportunity to grow and learn together. We trust in You, Lord, and know that with Your help, our marriage will be strong and full of love and joy.

In the name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.


Bible Verse to Ponder:

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 
– 1 Corinthians 13:6, NIV

Click Here to Subscribe to Marriage Prayers
Book Drive for FNCs

Do you have books that helped heal your marriage?  Would you be willing to donate them to other couples who need help with their marriage? 

Bring any books you would like to donate to the Best Western Dakota Ridge in Eagan during a Retrouvaille weekend or to any Post Session.
Relevant Radio
Relevant Radio

Bringing Christ to the world through the media

We would like to thank Relevant Radio for their support and sharing Retrouvaille through the media.

Tune in to 1330AM
Click here to support Relevant Radio
Patron Saint of Retrouvaille - St. Joseph

O blessed Joseph, faithful guardian of my Redeemer, Jesus Christ, protector of thy chaste spouse, the virgin Mother of God, I choose thee this day to be my special patron and advocate and I firmly resolve to honor thee all the days of my life. Therefore I humbly beseech thee to receive me as thy client, to instruct me in every doubt, to comfort me in every affliction, to obtain for me and for all the knowledge and love of the Heart of Jesus, and finally to defend and protect me at the hour of my death. Amen

'I know by experience, ' says St. Teresa of Avila, 'that the glorious St. Joseph assists us generally in all necessities. I never asked him for anything which he did not obtain for me. 

Mission & Vision Statements
Mission Statement

Twin Cities Retrouvaille is a Christian peer ministry that, with the help of God, teaches communication skills and offers a support community to couples experiencing pain and disappointment in their marriage relationships. 

Vision Statement

The vision of TCR is to build a healthy, vibrant, and expanding community which provides a nurturing environment that inspires Retrouvaille couples to grow in support for each other, other couples, and to reach out to other communities.


TCR Board Meetings are held the 3rd Tuesday of every month, 7pm-9pm.
Meetings are open for all community members to attend.
If you would like to attend, please contact any of the board members listed below.


TCR Board Members:

Community Coordinators:  Mike & Ann Cerney   TCRCoordinator@tcr-mn.org
Finance Coordinators:  Eric & Char Anderson   TCRFinance@tcr-mn.org
Secretary:  Roger & Susie Verduzco   TCRSecretary@tcr-mn.org    
Registration Coordinators:  Paul & Tina Shasky   TCRRegistration@tcr-mn.org   
Weekend Coordinators:   Tim & Teresa Sazma TCRWeekend@TCR-mn.org
POST Coordinators: Dean & Pat Ziegenbein  TCRPost@tcr-mn.org
Volunteer Coordinators   Jim & Vicki Smith TCRVolunteer@tcr-mn.org
CORE Coordinators:  Andy & Deirdre Jameson   TCRCore@tcr-mn.org